More than 700 people asked me for life advice the past 2 years.

I was teaching a class called Mentally Fit. We focused on creating initiations for ourselves, tracking our dreams and triggers during the initiation, and then how to use technology to document the journey, share the lessons, and sell the solutions.

(if that last part caused constriction in you, you likely struggle financially and two good books to read this week are To Sell is Human and The Psychology of Money; these are the best books I know to help modern people see through their triggers with coinage -- we live in late stage capitalism, if you want to help out, learn the money game fundamentals).

The heart of my worldview is that you have a soul, and learning to have a living relationship with it is each of our magnum opus.

I'm a banner bearing jungian/plotkins acolyte. That means I believe there is a 2 million year old super-intelligence living in you sending you dreams every night (Jung), and that your soul's calling is a fundamentally biological drive attempting to guide you to help the larger than human earth family (Plotkins).

Carrying this banner means I believe we're both stumbling prophets and needing-to-be-humbled groundskeeper to the water, air, fire, and earth.

Carrying this banner means purpose, direction, passion, and to breath from the center of a living mythology.

Have you seen Jung's interview where a reporter asks if he believes in God? His answer is one of the best videos that exist on the internet.​

This is how I feel about you having a soul, that your soul whispers to you daily through your conscious and your fear, that your soul sends you love letters nightly to help guide your goofy waking ego, and that if you commit to do things that scare you, you will find yourself moving through life in such a way that others will describe as 'walking with god' or 'walking with grace.'

I don't believe. I know. ​

So back to hundreds of people asking me questions; I find there are three types:

1. Google questions
2. Soul questions
3. Triggered questions

Google questions are "When is the homework due?" -- these are fact finding questions.

Soul questions are "Should I break up with my boyfriend?" -- these are questions I cannot answer, but with some patience, precision and after a few questions, people learn how to answer these questions for themselves.

Hint: What option makes your heart flutter just thinking about it? Maybe try that, telling the truth each step of the way, and see where you end up.

The third type of questions are Triggered questions. These questions do not want to be answered. They want me to confirm that the speaker is broken/un-lovable.

Triggered questions reveal themselves more in their response to an answer than the original question.

I offer a book, they say they've read it.
I offer a practice, they say they've done it.
I offer they try again, they say they've already tried again.

The confession of a trigger is the temporary inability to begin again.

It's easy to see this when it is not us that is triggered.

But if we are mature enough to be honest with ourselves, all of us know what it feels like to feel this.

You know the phrase 'struck a nerve;' thats a trigger.

We all have them, and learning to notice, track, and tag triggers is the difference between a narcissist and an elder.

So when I get a triggered question, I realize that the task of the moment is somatic attunement.

These people don't need language, they need to cry.

At the dusk of the day, we struggle because we believe the voice that says we're broken, ugly, and ought to hide.

That voice is shame.

When looked away from, shame strangles soul.

When looked at, shame is the door to grief, and grief felt drops us in the house of heaven.

(and if Heaven triggers you, try 'feeling your grief will help you feel fresh, alive, and inspired' ya uppity atheist).

It breaks my heart and motivates me; seeing how brutal people's self talk is. How hard they are on themselves. How they spend so.much. time and energy ruminating on how bad their situation is instead of beginning again.

When we aren't triggered, we begin again.

We try again to quit drinking, or we try again to stop watching porn.

We begin again learning the instrument, or speaking the language.

We begin again believing in love, or that humanity is decent.

We begin again living the story that we are fundamentally whole, safe, and loved.

When we move from safety and connection, we intuitively know what to do next. Buddhists call this 'just right action.' The next action becomes obvious when our heart and mind hum and throb as one coherence guidance system.

This is our natural state, and my goal as a teacher is to get my students to this place, because when they do, the questions change.

Try the following technique to reconnect your mind with your heart, thus sparking the intuitive 'just right next action.'

Step 1: Get comfy seated upright and set a timer for 20 minutes.
​Step 2: Use the first few minutes to lightly scan your body and find the sensation of your breath.
​Step 3: bring to imagination the face of someone you love. Someone you profoundly wish knew peace, safety, and love.
​Step 4: see them triggered, imagine their face when it is twisted in shame, hatred, fear, and guilt.
​Step 5: imagine your unconditional positive regard for them as a golden-pink light beaming from your chest and filling them, soothing them.
​Step 6: pendulum between the depth of pain you feel when you see their face twisted in shame, hate, guilt, fear, and then float back to the golden-pink light

You're doing it right when tears fall from your eyes. After hundreds of sits you may stop crying. Let me know when you get there.

If this imagination shit is too hard for you, then write a letter to someone you love where you tell them how profoundly you wish them love, peace, and safety, and write it true, to the point of tears.

These two practices help cultivate 'unconditional positive regard.'

Do these two practices long enough, and one day you might just give it to yourself.

What would you begin again this year if you forgave yourself for last year?

I hope you recommit to doing the muthfuckn thing.

Make a mess homie, and tell us all about it.

Quote I'm Enjoying

"To love someone else is easy, but to love what you are, the thing that is yourself, is just as if you were embracing a glowing red-hot iron: it burns into you and that is very painful.

Therefore, to love somebody else in the first place is always an escape which we all hope for, and we all enjoy it when we are capable of it. But in the long run, it comes back on us.

You cannot stay away from yourself forever, you have to return, have to come to that experiment, to know whether you really can love. That is the question—whether you can love yourself, and that will be the test."
-Jung

Song I'm Listening on Repeat

​Always Knew​

Weekly Journal Prompt

What would you begin again today if you forgave yourself for the last time you tried?

PS. Last Chance to Spend 5 days fasting with me

​Kyle Kingsbury is hosting Full Temple Reset Jan 7th - Jan 11th. This is a 5 day event at a regenerative farm in Lockhart Texas where we will be fasting, mobility training, cold plunging, ice bathing, journaling, dream working, and meditating together.

For the first time ever (we've been doing this for 4 years now), the first 20 to buy get room and board covered. There are 9 spots left to get a room at the farm in Lockhart.

If you feel the whisper and have the means, come fast and dream with us.